Toxicity in a relationship is represented by a series of actions or modes of communication that are damaging, hurtful, or harmful to the emotional, mental, or physical health of one or both individuals involved. These actions often result in a negative environment, the destruction of trust, and a negative impact on the overall health and stability of the relationship as shared by Dr. Poonam Poonia, Sr. Consultant, Clinical Psychologist at Cloud Nine Hospital Gurgaon.
Examples of such behavior include but are not limited to, manipulation, control, criticism, demeaning remarks, dishonesty, disrespect for boundaries, lack of empathy, passive-aggressive behavior, gaslighting, and various forms of abuse (be it physical, emotional, verbal, or psychological). Drawing a parallel from the above, in any healthy relationship, certain grave toxic behaviours should never be tolerated.
Constant Criticism And Belittlement: The most common behavior is constant criticism and belittlement. When a partner constantly puts you down, undermines your confidence, or makes you feel inadequate, it can erode your self-esteem and lead to resentment.
Manipulation: Another toxic behavior is emotional manipulation, where one partner uses guilt, fear, or other tactics to control or influence the other’s actions or emotions. This can create a dynamic of power imbalance and undermine trust.
Dishonesty and Deceit: Dishonesty and deceit are toxic to any relationship. Whether it’s lying about small matters or hiding significant truths, deception breeds mistrust and damages the foundation of the partnership.
Lack Of Respect For Boundaries: Furthermore, lack of respect for boundaries is detrimental to a relationship’s health. Whether it’s invading personal space, disregarding consent, or ignoring stated limits, failure to respect boundaries can lead to feelings of violation and insecurity.
Abuse: Lastly, any form of abuse, whether physical, verbal, emotional, or psychological, should never be tolerated. Abuse is a clear violation of an individual’s fundamental rights and dignity and requires immediate intervention and support to ensure safety and well-being.
Overall, recognizing and addressing these toxic behaviours is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. And people should be open to discuss these with family and friends to improve their lives and not sulk. Life is beautiful to be filled with toxicity. It can lead to fatal results in the long term. These behaviours can take on different forms and intensities, but they all contribute to an imbalance, unhappiness, and dysfunctionality within the relationship.
